Last summer, I met a woman working with infants with developmental problems. We chatted a few times about how a trustful bond between adults and children is essential and how, as adults, we communicate information through words and our mimics, tone of our voice, and eye contact or avoidance.
As infants, we can't speak or take care of our needs and have yet to learn everything about this world. Finally, we still depend on the surrounding people, so we observe. We mind how they move and speak and catch up on their emotions through facial expressions. We learn what makes them happy because if they are happy, we are safe. So, for example, a stressed mom can be translated as a great danger to a newborn.
As grown-ups, we meet challenging situations and stressful events, and we don't understand why we repeatedly get into the same troubles. We blame it on bad luck, people, chemtrails, Trump, the weather, mass media, religion, institutions, The Illuminati, The Pentaverate, aliens, etc. Whatever excuse it is, we avoid searching for the real roots of our misunderstanding.
We gain clarity by going inwards, searching for our truth. What did we learn from others in the past? Did we feel safe to speak our truth? Did we receive love and support? How about our inner child? Does that child feel loved or empowered by their surroundings? For me, it was significant to listen to my inner child before I could heal, let go, rewire my thoughts, love myself, and feel safe and at peace. However, communicating openly took me a long time, and I am still learning to express my feelings.
My practice taught me that most of our beliefs are deep-rooted in our past and that we can break toxic patterns by facing them. However, if we avoid and don't accept what was and what is, we will inevitably face the same results.
So what will you do next time your inner child asks for your attention? Will you finally face them?
Picture by @karolina.ko
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